Subby and Friel have identified eight rules that are most common in our lives that keep us unhealthy. I first read their work almost 20 years ago. I realized then how these rules are not only in families. They are in our congregations and, in fact, ingrained in our cultures. The further you go north on the European continent, the deeper the rules are acculturated. Guess what that means for us Lutherans? For us Wisconsinites, how many of the families in our congregations have been affected by alcoholism and how many bring the unhealthy rules to bear on congregational life?