The second rule that keeps us unhealthy according to Subby and Friel: "Feelings should not be expressed openly." We don't talk about what is going on inside of us. We don't allow others to really know us. Jesus breaks this rule time and again. When people make judgments against us we tend to react and fight back. But that is not what Jesus did. The disciples didn't share their feelings. They made a judgment in the form of a question, "Don't you care?" Jesus does not react to their attack. Instead, he identified their feelings. He addressed what was really going on inside of them, "Why are you afraid?"